I wonder what would happen if I gave my parts the luxury of an hour. Often I tell a scared part that I'm an adult and she doesn't have to be afraid. But she knows it's a manager telling her that and it doesn't help her at all. I don't think I often give my system the gift of enough time to check in with ALL the parts, starting with ALL the managers. Managers and Self-like parts do the check in and other parts rarely roll out the welcome mat for them. I am going to try to follow your example and give everyone plenty of time, and also tell them it's not a command performance. Thanks so much for this post! Hugs.
I wonder what would happen if I gave my parts the luxury of an hour. Often I tell a scared part that I'm an adult and she doesn't have to be afraid. But she knows it's a manager telling her that and it doesn't help her at all. I don't think I often give my system the gift of enough time to check in with ALL the parts, starting with ALL the managers. Managers and Self-like parts do the check in and other parts rarely roll out the welcome mat for them. I am going to try to follow your example and give everyone plenty of time, and also tell them it's not a command performance. Thanks so much for this post! Hugs.