That's still hard to say out loud. Which is exactly how I know it's true.
It looks passive, submissive, even accommodating. But underneath that well crafted mask is coercion — a strategy for getting what I want without ever admitting I want it.
I spent decades doing it without knowing I was doing it. Performing agreeableness. Managing the room. Keeping people close by making myself easy to keep.
Learning to interrupt that — to just say what I actually want in the moment — has been some of the hardest work I've done. Because it requires the thing Meg names so precisely.
Fawning is a form of control.
That's still hard to say out loud. Which is exactly how I know it's true.
It looks passive, submissive, even accommodating. But underneath that well crafted mask is coercion — a strategy for getting what I want without ever admitting I want it.
I spent decades doing it without knowing I was doing it. Performing agreeableness. Managing the room. Keeping people close by making myself easy to keep.
Learning to interrupt that — to just say what I actually want in the moment — has been some of the hardest work I've done. Because it requires the thing Meg names so precisely.
Surrender.
I relate to this and feel this is sooo true for my parts too - a form of control and managing the room. Yes.